My turn came to share the amount of financial support I brought with me to recent fund-raiser meetings.
I
shared that I had come to offer my moral support. Unbeknownst to me, I
seem to have shocked and
disappointed others by not declaring an impressive amount of money. No hand claps there.
disappointed others by not declaring an impressive amount of money. No hand claps there.
In
another round of collections, a darling soul quickly folded a currency
note and offered it to me when it was almost my turn to make another
contribution.
I lovingly and respectfully declined it with thanks. I later learned that it was to help me not ‘look bad’.
I
am confident that he meant well and love him for his brand of support.
I am however a firm subscriber of the notion that my presence, time and
emotional involvement is just as important if not greater than my
financial contribution.
Looking at my hands as I
write this, the different sizes, shapes and lengths of my fingers
further stress the reason why teams exist.
No matter
how standardized expectation may be, we all play different roles at
different times. It is however interesting to note just how much we
allow societal expectations to dictate how much of ourselves we
continually amend to fit the pre-determined bill.
We are expected to succeed in school – straight As in
all subjects. We are expected to find, keep good jobs and rise to the
top of respected multi-national organizations. We are expected to marry
by a certain age, bear male, healthy, disciplined, cute, and intelligent
children before the in-laws become restless.
We are expected to have money, time and other resources to offer others ever so readily at every unforeseen event.
We are expected to… how infinitely expectant life can be!
We
spend our lives attempting to check every one of the boxes on the long
list of others’ expectations rather than understanding, accepting and
being ourselves.
We are willingly cornered into
personifying the image painted by others rather than reaching the
confidence that only comes with self-actualization.
We
must do ourselves immense good by realizing that the space that a
discerning few fill with a strong sense of self, the rest fill with
objects, relationships, money, jobs and all manner of possessions that
define who they are.
This is the snug expectations
box that they continually attempt to squeeze us into. For them, the
acceptable person conforms to this unwritten set of dictates.
The
truth is that we owe society no debt by being the people that we know
we are. On the contrary, our lives bear a significant obligation: to
bar external situations from taking control of our actions and/or
inactions.
The real or perceived severity of every
situation is relative. We must ask ourselves if and how external
situations change the core of who we are. They most likely do not
unless we allow it. Society is you and I. You and I individually
decide what our expectations of yourselves are.
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