My five nuggets on marriage

A happy couple on their wedding day. When marriage is viewed as an outdated institution that lacks the intended vibrancy and lustre, it loses appeal, thereby making those who desire to enter it not want to fit into its mold. PHOTO | FILE 

In Summary

• To know what it means to have found the love of your life, one needs to start with the end in mind by asking how he/she will flourish to become the adult he/she would like to be, and whether their partner would be part of producing that end product. 

By PHILIP KITOTO
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1.A happy marriage is for the bold-hearted with a serious commitment to invest time and energy that might be hard to maintain, particularly for the selfish and faint-hearted.

2. When marriage is viewed as an outdated institution that lacks the intended vibrancy and lustre, it loses appeal, thereby making those who desire to enter it not want to fit into its mold. 

3. If marriage is no longer a road map and a learning ground on how to mature to adulthood but a mere depiction of it, it makes the spouses who enter it deny it the ability to prepare us to be the kind of people we should be in the relationship.

4. To know what it means to have found the love of your life, one needs to start with the end in mind by asking how he/she will flourish to become the adult he/she would like to be, and whether their partner would be part of producing that end product. 

5.Marriage has the capacity to change you, refine your goals and ambitions, introduce you to new environments and people, and even change your views on relationships in general.