Each person has unique combinations of traits, preferences and desires. PHOTO | FILE
By SCOTT BELLOWS
In Summary
- Revisit your life plan regularly with pre-set intervals of perhaps every three months and note your progress, struggles, and make adjustments.
Mogeni lived for weekends. When Friday at 5pm arrived each week, he felt joy and excitement.
He spent Saturdays working on a side business and then
Sundays relaxing with friends. But by Mondays, Mogeni begrudgingly
walked up the stairs to his office.
He flung open the company door and stared at the
rows of desks. He trotted over to his seat. Then came the sound of
ringing. Mogeni clamoured to answer his phone with a feeling of
disappointment. He could not stand talking to clients.
Unfortunately, Mogeni’s parents forced him to take a
marketing major at university. But he always fostered dreams throughout
his life of operating his own tourist hotel at the Kenyan coast.
So, every day Mogeni must live out his parents’
dream instead of his own. Inasmuch, he feels miserable Monday through
Friday each week.
Many students as well as Business Daily
readers inquire about how to find a job and choose a career. However, a
more appropriate question should entail how to fulfill your desired plan
for your life.
Many people spend inordinate amounts of time
planning for their businesses or working on strategies for their
employers. But experts contend that one should apply the same rigour to
one’s own life.
Often individuals implement a haphazard approach to
planning their own existence. Do you come up with targets for what you
desire to achieve in one year, three years, five years, 10 years, 20
years, and beyond? If so, do you just imagine generalisations such as
live in a “good home” or “get married and have kids”?
Such shallow answers leave you with a dismal
roadmap. Absent a clear plan, you fall victim to what scientists call
the poor judgments of impulse. So do not mentally just think that you
desire a “good home”, but rather you desire a four bedroom maisonette in
Kitengela by the age of 30.
Do not just dream of marriage, but what type of
personality do you hold and what personality in a mate would adequately
suit your needs over the long term? Do not go about your day to day life
with proverbial blinders over your eyes.
You might recall the common cliché “follow your
gut”. Popular culture dictates that we should listen to the inner voice
inside us.
Further, society advocates for realising our
initial reaction to a stimulus or situation as the correct response.
Many friends tell each other “do not over think it”. However, such
phrases and clichés create terrible results.
Research shows that humans make stunningly poor
decisions when relying on their gut or initial impulses. The human brain
evolved to react instantly to stimuli and make snap decisions regarding
safety in the bush: threat or harmless.
Then if a threat, should we fight or flee. So,
psychologically we quickly compare various factors to determine threat
worthiness and our immediate responses to intimidation.
Societal fallacy
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