By DR FRANK NJENGA
Q: I run a high-tech medical laboratory that
is becoming very popular with patients seeking diagnosis tests for
various ailments. However, one of my employees is giving me headache
because she can’t keep any secrets.
Medical records are very confidential and I
fear she may soon breach the trust of patients through her gossip. How
can I handle this because she is highly specialised at her work and I
don’t want to lose the talent she has?
A few years ago, a young couple came for marital therapy sessions. We took them through the different types of personalities.
At the end of the sessions, they understood each
other and although their marriage is still rocky, they can tolerate each
other. This is the reason they sought our help.
On Valentine’s Day, three young couples who had
known each other from high school decided to celebrate the day at a city
restaurant.
Two of the young women had birthdays the same month, so it was a double celebration.
Two of the young women had birthdays the same month, so it was a double celebration.
Towards the end of the most exiting evening of
sharing with friends the joys of being young, independent, happy and
doing well in their respective professions, disaster struck.
Completely out of the blue, one of the girls blurted out a secret.
She carelessly reminded her husband that he had a
doctor’s appointment the following morning to check his digestive system
to see why he is always breaking wind. An icy silence engulfed the six
at once, the bills were paid in silence.
The young man and his close friends were embarrassed. For his wife, disaster had struck for the second time in a month.
In January at a family gathering, she brought up a
sensitive subject of how her husband has sexual difficulties after
heavy drinking.
The couple had agreed to keep the matter to
themselves. He had promised to seek help and on Valentine’s Day he
volunteered to be the designated driver and didn’t touch alcohol.
Despite their promise, the woman broke her vow to her husband to “keep family secrets.”
When they got home, hell broke loose not least
because she had drunk a little more than was good for her. We saw them
after tempers had cooled and after it became evident that they could not
go on without help.
They knew they loved each other, but her behaviour was straining their marriage.
A way had to be found to help her control herself. She seemed incapable of keeping any family secret.
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